Helen Paul is a Nigerian comedian, singer, and actress. She is also a stand-up comedian, known as Tatafo, characterized by a voice range that makes her sound like a child.

She graduated with a doctorate degree in Theater Arts from the University of Lagos.

After marrying her husband in 2010, Helen Paul welcomed two sons into their family.

The comedian had previously talked about her difficult life story, including the stigma attached to her birth as a result of rape and the rejection she experienced from her family. Read previous story HERE

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She recently had an interview on the Honest Brunch Podcast, during the interview, celebrated comedian, Helen Paul bared her ongoing battle with self-esteem hurdles, specifically in the context of her career.

In her candid revelations, Helen underscored the emotional toll these encounters exacted. She disclosed that her self-esteem struggles predated her marriage, with her wedding day conversation with Femi laying bare her insecurities.

While expressing her commitment to making the marriage work, she acknowledged that her initial expectations were tempered by modesty.

Helen’s openness shines a light on how societal judgments impact individuals, even those in the public eye. Her narrative resonates with many grappling with self-esteem challenges, emphasizing the significance of self-acceptance and resilience amid societal expectations.


The comedian continued by revealing that her supervisor had even gone so far as to criticize her and suggest to her spouse that they should simply have a light romantic relationship rather than think about making a serious commitment.

“My boss called my husband and said, do you really want to date Helen, Femi?, You deserve better, but if you just want to have fun, it’s okay,” she shared

Following her announcement, many people rushed to social media to voice their displeasure, with others sharing similar experiences.

Helen shared these detailing societal scrutiny surrounding her marriage to Femi, a lawyer, stemming from her identity as a comedian.


Reflecting on instances where Femi encountered probing questions about his unconventional choice of a comedian spouse, Helen admitted that these interactions significantly impacted her self-esteem and shaped her self-perception relative to her husband.

One particularly memorable incident involved Helen’s HR manager expressing doubt about Femi’s selection of her as a life partner due to his professional background.

Another workplace encounter featured insinuations that Femi was too clean for someone in Helen’s line of work.

The cumulative effect of these experiences led Helen to confess that, during the early years of their marriage, she actively avoided attending the same church as her husband. Overwhelmed by feelings of inadequacy, she grappled with the belief that her comedic career fell short in comparison to Femi’s esteemed status as a lawyer.


Helen recounted the pressure she felt when introducing Femi publicly, sensing that her profession didn’t measure up to his achievements.

However, she was able to overcome low self esteem by building herself up and building her career as well and also by getting more degrees. She went ahead to advise others to emulate her by focusing on themselves, have good self development and self care because, no one is irreplaceable.


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